The problem with female masturbation, as I've mentioned before, is how little dialogue there is on the subject. Take this story as an example. It's about the risks of unusual masturbation methods and even talks about a medical condition (traumatic masturbatory syndrome). I got all excited before finding out that the scientific study the author cites focuses exclusively on men. The writer poses some questions about how this study might affect masturbators of the female persuasion, but I'm hesitant to apply male-specific research to women. As we all know, often studies that conclude one thing about the male physique will work completely differently when applied to women's bodies. It's important to have our own studies on our own bodies.
But in the meantime, let's go beyond posing questions and possibilities and offer up some personal experiences. Are there risks for women who masturbate in certain positions?
My favourite solitary sexual position is on my back - yes, basically the missionary position with my legs high in the air. That position didn't cause me any problem for a long time - but then I developed an injury from it. I was in a lot of pain - while masturbating as well as in my day-to-day life - for nearly a year, and it took another year for it to heal. I was okay to walk and do most things, but when it was at its worst, I couldn't lift my right leg higher than a few inches.
This happened most obviously one day when I was visiting my dad. The truck he had at the time was very high off the ground, and getting into the passenger seat, I literally could not pick my leg up high enough to pull it in. I had gotten myself on the seat with my left leg, but my right leg dangled out of the side of the truck, limp. I tried to pull it up a few times with my own muscles, but my leg would go up an inch or two and no more. My solution was to awkwardly use both my hands to pull my right leg into the truck.
This had looked very strange to my dad, I'm sure, so I decided to say something. Something very very vague. I told him I'd developed an injury from something and wasn't sure what to do about it. My dad suggested stopping the action that was causing the injury, and I just smiled inwardly - there are many things I would give up in order to have a happy, working body, but regular masturbation is certainly NOT one of them!
The changes I did make were to favour my left leg - let that one fly high in the air, and try to prop my right leg and hip up with pillows. Or let my right leg lay flat for most of my session (which can last from 10-60 minutes), just bringing it up for a couple of minutes at a time to help me achieve clitoral orgasm. (Yes, I really do need to be in that exact position - missionary with both legs in the air - to climax. It makes masturbation while travelling VERY complicated, let me tell you!)
That's really all I did, and it must have worked, because after a year I was no longer in pain. For another year or so I noticed that the right leg would get sore if it was held up too long, and so I would compensate, but for the last couple of years I've experienced no pain and the leg is fine being held in the air for long periods of time.
The healing of this injury baffles me, as I feel too shy to talk about it with anyone but I'm very curious about what was going on and why it has healed so well. Did my muscle just eventually get stronger and now it can hold that weight more easily? Did my stomach muscles strengthen so that I'm using those more instead of relying on my legs?
I wonder how many other women have experienced these silent injuries they don't feel they can talk about. Are there certain positions more prone to causing injury than others? Can women develop "traumatic masturbatory syndrome," and if so, how is it different than the male version, and what can we do to prevent it?
In my case, I don't think the missionary position would be considered an "unusual masturbation method" for women, yet I did develop an injury from it. I doubt it would fit the description of "traumatic masturbatory syndrome," but it does raise questions about masturbation injuries in general.
I have many friends who have injured themselves while having partner sex, and they go so far as to brag about it (a friend of mine broke his ribs while having sex in the shower!), but I don't know anyone who would brag about a masturbation injury. How about we start a trend?
"Hey, Jane, guess what? I sprained my wrist last night, but it was SO worth it. Best orgasm I've ever had!"
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i have never actually injured myself, i too prefer the missionary position, but i have a friend of mine who has hurt her neck before.
I haven't actually hurt myself too traumatically while masturbating luckily. I favour being on top of my vibrator (as when I was little I didn't have one so would just rub myself on the edge of my mattress).
I gave myself a few anal tears when I was a kid. 12, I think. I had no idea what a clitoris was and all I knew was that inserting stuff into the vagina with no warm-up hurt. But for some reason I could take fingers/razor handles/paintbrush handles up the ass without it hurting. o_O I never orgasmed from it but it felt good and I'd usually have fun with it on weekends during 7th grade. Until one time, FOR SOME REASON, I decided to try and sit on the TOILET PLUNGER HANDLE. WTF. No lube. Dry wooden handle. What the hell, 12-year-old self. So yeah, that hurt quite sharply and I think must've hurt for a while after that, because... I didn't masturbate again for 6 years. :( Not even joking, man. It was sad.
When I did start up again I found out about the clit and then went to town! I usually just masturbate on my back, letting my legs fall open some. I almost never put them up in the air, way too much work! Once I pulled some major ass muscles in the shower after I nearly fainted during an orgasm, though...
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I've been masturbating to climax for decades (since I was 11) and injured my clit for the first time in early September. I'm left handed and had this habit of rubbing the right side of my clit with my left index finger until I climax. In September, I had a slight tear on my fingernail. This ended up scratching the hood of my clit, which I didn't realize until a couple days later when my boyfriend tried to go down on me and I yelped when his lips touched my clit. Now it's like my clit is permanently canted to the left. I'm having to deliberately massage the left side with my right hand now to sorta try and fix the crook in it. Argh, what a pain ... in my clit.
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