Monday, March 15, 2010

The egg vibe


Vibrators have always been my favourite toy. Ever since I won a vibrator at a sex-toy party, there's been no turning back.

That first vibe was a bullet or egg-shaped vibrator. It was a little vibrating egg with a long wire attaching it to a rectangular box for the batteries. One time I bought what I thought was the same vibrator, but it actually was more bullet and less egg (thinner with a narrow tip rather than oval and broader tip pictured here). I didn't like the bullet nearly as much - I found there was too much intensity in the small tip for me.

I've since moved on to the longer style of vibrator - the ones that can be 5-7 inches of solid plastic. I'd always had these as a less satisfying backup to the egg vibe, and I did like that they doubled as insertion tools. But at first I found their size clunky in my hand and difficult to hold. Looking back now, I'm not actually sure why I stopped using the egg vibes, but I suspect I had a hard time finding the style I preferred in stores. (I've used online shopping from time to time to order my toys, but I prefer to buy them at local sex shops.)

I did try the egg vibe once more about a year ago, and I fell in love once again. This model was bright red and I felt like a retro goddess diva using it. (Oh, marketing.) I bought it because I was in a relationship at the time, and I was hoping the egg-and-cord style would allow for some hands-off vibrating action for me while we had intercourse. Unfortunately I think this is what led to its untimely demise. After using it like this a few times, the cord become frayed and the vibration stopped working altogether. The friction from our bodies was too much for the poor thing.

But it was still very useful in its afterlife. I kept the now-detached egg in my lover's bedside drawer, and used it when I needed that final polishing-off after sex. (I'd rarely found non-vibrating surfaces effective for me, but in the presence of my lover -- and often with his eager assistance -- I found the little hollow egg was equally effective whether vibrating or not.

Now it's back to the longer vibrators. Maybe one weakness I have for the longer ones is their versatility - they act as a dildo in a pinch (and lately I've found that they can hit my g-spot if I'm really turned on!) and are a very cheap and accessible vibrator. I will always remember the egg vibrators with fondness, though -- and when I do buy another one, I will keep it for solo sex this time!

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Housekeeping

After getting many spammy comments for about two months now, I've changed the comment settings for this blog. You can still comment anonymously (I feel that is important for a topic like this) but now comments are moderated (and you will have to prove you are human), so that should cut down on the spam. I've also deleted all the comment spam.

And guess what I found? Real comments! From real people, I mean. They all started coming in (both the real comments as well as the spammy comments) January of this year, so I don't know what happened to route traffic to this blog after it's been inactive for, what, two years now? But, welcome. I'm glad you're enjoying the posts archived here. I started this blog as a writing project, one that is now on the back burner while I work on another (non-sexual) one. I would like to return to this one at some point.

Meanwhile, to keep this post on topic, I'll give you a brief sexual update: After an intense but ultimately unfulfilling relationship, I've been slowly recovering my old sexual self. I haven't had partner sex for almost a year now. I miss it. I do think I (almost) made up for my ten years without partner sex in those months, and that was nice. Since the breakup I haven't been very interested in masturbation. For the most part, it has acted as a release when the tension builds up, but it doesn't have the same lustre (or fulfillment) as it held for me before. In the last month or so, I have been playing more, feeling my libido wake up more. I sense that, come spring, I will be in a spring-like mood. :) But relationships and partner sex continue to scare me -- I love sex but I have experienced much sexual assault, too. Seeking sex outside of the confines of a committed, monogamous relationship is a threatening thing to me. I do hope that I am able to find some middle ground, though, as I miss partner sex very much and at the moment have no appetite for another relationship. In the meantime, I'll start my own explorations once again.